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[ December 13, 2019 by wpbiz 0 Comments ]

Are You the Consumer or An Investor This Holiday Season.

The other day I came across a quote that really got me thinking…

 

“When it comes to generational wealth, your children should start where you finish, not where you began.”

This is something to truly think about. When you leave this world, will you be leaving your family with a hole or a trampoline?

Society wants us to focus on the material things during this time of year.  A new iPhone 11, new smart devices, new cars, a truckload of toys and goodies. This is the season of tangibles and liabilities. But imagine having a plan that can set you up for life! An investment your future self and your descendants will thank you for.  A plan that can set you up for a comfortable lifestyle in retirement and leave a “trampoline” for your children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren to stay ahead in life.  I’m talking about a blueprint combined with tools they need to create financial stability and capitalize on future opportunities as they continue on the path to creating generational wealth and a positive long-lasting legacy.

Now, I am not here to be a downer and tell you not to celebrate the holidays the way you normally would. But with the upcoming decade, it is so important to me that I plant a seed. A seed that opens your eyes and mind to the amazing opportunities available to you with a little help and guidance from a Legacy Coach such as myself.

I encourage you this season, when you set time to budget for your presents and holiday festivities, that you also allocate some of this time to invest in yourself and the ones you love.

As my gift to you, let’s work together to build a solid legacy plan. Click here to schedule your FREE discovery session with me.

Treat yourself this holiday like you’ve never done before. You owe it to yourself and your family.

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[ August 20, 2019 by SmallBizSEO 0 Comments ]

Setting Family Goals Leads to Less Stress

Whether we admit it or not, building a strong family foundation can be filled with challenges and pitfalls, keeping families on an endless cycle of ups and downs.  Becoming overwhelmed with the many issues and schedules and commitments of life is easy to do, leading our family into a tailspin of uncertainty. While no family is perfect, there are ways to regain control of the reigns and make life more manageable and meaningful.   

Setting goals for ourselves and our families is an important first step in regaining control of the direction in which things are heading.  Taking time to sit down and contemplate who you are as a unit and what you want that unit’s experience to be in the present and in the future, is a valuable practice.  Being intentional about goals and visions for yourself and your family is the way to reconnect with our core values.

When you take the time to intentionally reflect on how you would like to grow as a family, you invest in its success by forming paths to move forward.  Thinking about what behaviors and values are important to model, where there are areas that can be strengthened, and where we see our family in the future, are all worthy of mindful thought.  Having a clear conviction on your concept of family, increases your motivation to lead.

In the practice of goal setting, it can become clear what circumstances are in need of immediate attention.  For instance, a goal of minimizing financial stress can have a tangible plan that puts a family back in control.  As much as we would like for money not to matter, it does, and is the underpinning of all families. Seeking a financial coach to assist in formulating a financial plan to reach your goals for your family is a wise option. 

But reaching out for assistance can be beneficial to more than just financial planning.  Seeking the guidance of professionals such as Alvin Darien II, who provide leadership and financial coaching, can be a game changer for your family.  Having someone on your side who is skilled and knowledgeable in planning and goal setting, can drastically reduce any sense of being overwhelmed.

Working to achieve goals helps reduce stress and puts us back in control. Approaching your family goals with intention, is well worth the investment.  When you put effort into what you would like to accomplish as an individual and as a family unit, we create roadmaps to a more meaningful life.  

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[ July 30, 2019 by wpbiz 0 Comments ]

Your Family and Your Legacy

Words of Wisdom from Amazon Bestseller “Don’t Let Adversity Steal your Legacy.”

 

 

“Family over everything” is a quote I’m sure you’ve all heard. Family is very important, and for most people, their family is their main support system and foundation. Because of this, we generally feel that we will be there for our family no matter what the circumstance because as they say “loyalty” is everything and “family always comes first.”  And although we want to do everything in our might to help out our parents, children, and close relatives, sometimes the best thing to do is show them we believe in them by giving them the gift of personal responsibility.

 

An example of gifting personal responsibility would be your child’s challenges after graduating from college. Not everyone is guaranteed a high earning job the moment they graduate, so for most, the moment they stop being a student, “real life” swoops in so fast, they are unsure how to handle it. Your first instinct may be to go into nurturing mode and have them return home to take care of them like you were used to doing in the past. This is a natural feeling, but it is important to consider the impact this decision can have on the relationship long term; this can affect your emotional legacy.

 

Another example regards a friend of mine. There was a time she was struggling to support a sibling. This sibling was living life on a whim. Not saving money, couldn’t hold a job, couldn’t sustain interpersonal relationships, and was just spiraling down. She felt personally responsible to help him in any way she could, be It financially (paying bills), spending all of her free time trying to find him jobs (that he couldn’t hold on to anyway), and draining herself to make sure he was ok. Rather than teaching him to fish, she kept providing the “fish” from her personal stash. To make matters worse, he was not very appreciative and she constantly felt overwhelmed and unacknowledged. This was not helpful for either party, but it was being done because she believed you must do everything for her family.

 

“Your failure to plan does not constitute
an emergency for me.”
– Alvin Darien II

 

This is an example of her brother failing to plan, and now his emergencies becoming hers. Guilt makes it hard to say “no” to family members, but in this situation, the best way to help him that could possibly benefit them both was to let him take responsibility for his own life and challenges.

The moment she took the responsibility off of herself, she flourished. Her business grew, and he became motivated based on seeing her accomplish things once she took her life back into her hands.

 

Now, imagine you being in a similar situation.

Imagine that every personal adversity you have in your life is stone. You are strong enough to carry your own stones, and others in your family see how effortlessly you handle this weight, so they give you a few of theirs.  Should you help relieve some of their weight, or have them figure it out on their own?

 

There is no right or wrong answer to this, but keep in mind that every decision you make has an effect. So, outweigh the options. For example, if you are doing well financially, maybe you can afford to help someone out financially here and there, but chances are, they may expect this kind of help every time they are in a bind. Can you afford to do this? Both financially and emotionally?

 

 

 

Homework

  1. Are there any situations in your life where you feel you are overextending yourself to help others in your family? If so, is there something you can be doing differently to preserve yourself without feeling guilty?
  2. What stones are you willing to carry? Set limitations for yourself.
  3. Make sure your family knows you love them, and because you love them, you must allow them to take personal responsibility for their own lives.
  4. Talk to your family and let them know your goals and priorities.