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[ October 28, 2019 by SmallBizSEO 0 Comments ]

Achieving Happiness and Prosperity: How a Legacy Coach Can Help You Chart a Path For Success

A recent study found that nearly 13 percent of American adults are unhappy with how their life is going. Feeling this way can lead to increased stress and even depression. Rather than giving up and resigning yourself to a life of misery, you need to make a change.

Some people think that this type of change has to happen all at once. In reality, these significant life changes will need to happen over the course of time. Instead of trying to make your life better on your own, you need to think about using a legacy coach. Not only can they help you get on the right path, they can also help you figure out a way to hand down the lessons you have learned to future generations.

Here are some of the things you need to focus on when trying to achieve happiness and prosperity.

Working With a Legacy Coach Helps You Gain Clarity

Going to work and earning money is something most people do without much thought. Generally, a lack of direction will lead to a person becoming unhappy with their work and home life. This is why finding a way to clarify what your goals are is imperative. Looking at your situation objectively will be difficult, which is why working with a legacy coach is your best course of action.

With the help of an experienced legacy coach, you can figure out what you are passionate about and what type of legacy you want to leave behind for your family. Without this information, you will have a hard time moving forward and achieving the prosperity you aspire to. A legacy coach can look at all aspects of your life and give you their honest opinion on what needs to change.

Putting Plans Into Action is Difficult

Some people sit around and make plans without any intention of following through with them. Making these plans is the easy part, actually following through with them is the hard part. If you are constantly making plans and not putting them into action, you will start to feel like a failure. Hiring an experienced legacy coach can help you leave these problems in the past.

Not only can a legacy coach help you develop a plan for a better today and a brighter tomorrow, they can also give you step by step instructions on how to get the ball rolling. With this help and guidance, you can reinvent your way of thinking and achieve your personal and financial goals.

Why a Legacy Plan is Imperative

You may be wondering why you should care about having a detailed legacy plan in place. If you love your family, you clearly want what is best for them. The last thing anyone wants is for their family to be lost in the event of their untimely passing. Allowing a legacy coach to help you create a detailed plan, you can rest assured the ones you love are well taken care of.

What are You Waiting For?

Are you interested in getting legacy coaching? If so, contact Alvin Darien II now to find out more about the services I offer.

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[ October 5, 2019 by wpbiz 0 Comments ]

Building the Perfect Morning Routine that Leads to a More Productive Day

I often hear “I wish I had more time” or “There just aren’t enough hours in the day!” Are you guilty of saying this?

Truth is, and I am sure you have heard this before, we ALL have the same 24 hours in a day. So how is that that some can achieve more within this time than others?

Now, I understand that no two lives are the same, so although we may all be allotted 24 brand new hours every day, that doesn’t mean we go about them the same way. Maybe you have more responsibilities than the next person, maybe you don’t, but how exactly are you structuring your day to ensure it is as productive as you want it to be?

Busy and Productive are Two Different Things

Just because your schedule is packed for the day; does not mean you are necessarily having a productive day. This leads to the feeling you have at the end of that day of wishing you had more time. You know that feeling where you did so much, yet feel you’ve accomplished nothing.

So, what exactly are you wishing you had more time to do? Work on passion? Relax? Pick up a new hobby? Run more errands? Get more work done? Expand your business?

A Solid and Consistent Morning Routine Can Go A Long Way

If you study successful people, one thing that you’ll notice is they share similar habits— and having a daily morning ritual is one of them. For those who think they are too busy to have one, being busy isn’t an excuse. In fact, the busier that you get, the more you need one, because a morning routine sets the tone of your day.

Crafting a morning routine is a personal thing. Not everyone’s morning is the same. How you structure YOUR morning can make all the difference. As time progresses, your morning routine should evolve. If something isn’t working, change it. Don’t latch on just because someone else is doing it.

Here is a summary of my current morning routine:

  • 5 AM: Wake Up
  • 5:05 AM: Words of Affirmation
  • 5:10 AM : Make the bed
  • 5:15 AM: Read or Listen to the Bible
  • 5:30 AM: Read Min 15 Pages of a personal development book
  • 5:45 AM: Stretch and Forgive
  • 6:00 AM: Gym/ Workout
  • 7:15 AM: Prepare for the day ahead
  • 7:45 AM: Breakfast

Home Work:

You can start off small. Pick a minimum of 4-morning habits that you want to start in the morning. And begin to use them TOMORROW. You can use the list below for inspiration or create your own.

  • Wake Up at 5am
  • Drink 16 oz of water upon rising
  • 15 minutes of meditation
  • Pray
  • Movement (yoga, workout, walk, stretch)
  • Keep a daily gratitude journal
  • Plan the day ahead
  • Spend 1 hour working towards your passion (outside of your 9-5 job)
  • Take a cold shower to wake up
  • Make a healthy breakfast
  • Spend time with the family before you all separate for the day

Repeat your Morning Routine for 30 days (if you skip a day, add another day to the 30 days)

Keep a list by your bedside or in your calendar so you do not forget the ritual.

Adjust ritual as needed.

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[ September 12, 2019 by wpbiz 0 Comments ]

Steer Clear of Bad Advice

There is nothing wrong with seeking wisdom or advice when it comes to your life, business, relationships and more, but who exactly are you turning to?

When looking for answers keep this in mind: Do not take advice from people who lack experience on the topic at hand.

Would you prefer to take relationship advice from a single person, or a couple married for years?

Do you want financial advice from someone who is struggling to make ends meet; or someone who has proven experience in saving and maintaining a consistent cash flow?

Would you ask for an opinion on your business from someone who is barely surviving their 9-5 or someone who has a thriving business?

The answers to these questions seem pretty simple, don’t they? But to be honest, most of us have taken the “wrong” option at least once or twice in our lives which have led to us being influenced by bad advice.

“I have heard people say they have received bad advice,
but I have never heard anyone say they have received bad wisdom.”
Alvin Darien II
Legacy Coach

Be very careful where you receive your counsel. If you are seeking advice from someone who is not living the life you want, seriously consider whether or not you should be listening to and taking to heart what they have to say.  By no means does this mean you should flat out ignore those who do not have the same exact goals, desires, and motivation as you; But make sure you are not following the same path if you know it will not lead you to where you want to go.

A lot of people complain about taking bad advice, but no one has ever told me they have received bad wisdom. Wisdom comes from experience, where advice, most times, comes from speculation. Therefore, most advice we receive in our day to day lives are is not meant to be taken seriously.

Sometimes it is difficult to differentiate wisdom from advice, but I have found that wisdom often resonates with you internally when you hear it. Although “gut feelings” should not be the deciding factor in all of your decisions, they can be a good guide on whether or not you should consider the input you are receiving.

WHO ARE YOU RECEIVING YOUR FINANCIAL ADVICE FROM?

The majority of broke people receive financial advice from other broke people or financial “entertainers.”

(A financial entertainer is someone who gives the same exact advice to everyone. As if financial advice was one size fits all thing, right? )

Please understand that everyone does not have the same financial DNA, so we cannot take the same advice for every financial concern.

To receive proper wisdom on finances (or other significant life topics) it is important to work with knowledgeable professionals. One who can, in turn, help you build a lasting legacy.

If you are ready to take the FIRST step towards building a positive legacy and receiving great wisdom to do so, schedule your FREE breakthrough discovery session with me, or one of my coaches. We can help you uncover your Financial DNA, discuss your financial mindset, and create a plan to help you build a solid legacy for generations to come.

My goal as a legacy consultant and coach, is to understand your individual and/or family’s financial goals and vision (amongst other goals) and help you build your positive long-lasting legacy.

Click here to learn more.

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[ July 30, 2019 by wpbiz 0 Comments ]

Your Family and Your Legacy

Words of Wisdom from Amazon Bestseller “Don’t Let Adversity Steal your Legacy.”

 

 

“Family over everything” is a quote I’m sure you’ve all heard. Family is very important, and for most people, their family is their main support system and foundation. Because of this, we generally feel that we will be there for our family no matter what the circumstance because as they say “loyalty” is everything and “family always comes first.”  And although we want to do everything in our might to help out our parents, children, and close relatives, sometimes the best thing to do is show them we believe in them by giving them the gift of personal responsibility.

 

An example of gifting personal responsibility would be your child’s challenges after graduating from college. Not everyone is guaranteed a high earning job the moment they graduate, so for most, the moment they stop being a student, “real life” swoops in so fast, they are unsure how to handle it. Your first instinct may be to go into nurturing mode and have them return home to take care of them like you were used to doing in the past. This is a natural feeling, but it is important to consider the impact this decision can have on the relationship long term; this can affect your emotional legacy.

 

Another example regards a friend of mine. There was a time she was struggling to support a sibling. This sibling was living life on a whim. Not saving money, couldn’t hold a job, couldn’t sustain interpersonal relationships, and was just spiraling down. She felt personally responsible to help him in any way she could, be It financially (paying bills), spending all of her free time trying to find him jobs (that he couldn’t hold on to anyway), and draining herself to make sure he was ok. Rather than teaching him to fish, she kept providing the “fish” from her personal stash. To make matters worse, he was not very appreciative and she constantly felt overwhelmed and unacknowledged. This was not helpful for either party, but it was being done because she believed you must do everything for her family.

 

“Your failure to plan does not constitute
an emergency for me.”
– Alvin Darien II

 

This is an example of her brother failing to plan, and now his emergencies becoming hers. Guilt makes it hard to say “no” to family members, but in this situation, the best way to help him that could possibly benefit them both was to let him take responsibility for his own life and challenges.

The moment she took the responsibility off of herself, she flourished. Her business grew, and he became motivated based on seeing her accomplish things once she took her life back into her hands.

 

Now, imagine you being in a similar situation.

Imagine that every personal adversity you have in your life is stone. You are strong enough to carry your own stones, and others in your family see how effortlessly you handle this weight, so they give you a few of theirs.  Should you help relieve some of their weight, or have them figure it out on their own?

 

There is no right or wrong answer to this, but keep in mind that every decision you make has an effect. So, outweigh the options. For example, if you are doing well financially, maybe you can afford to help someone out financially here and there, but chances are, they may expect this kind of help every time they are in a bind. Can you afford to do this? Both financially and emotionally?

 

 

 

Homework

  1. Are there any situations in your life where you feel you are overextending yourself to help others in your family? If so, is there something you can be doing differently to preserve yourself without feeling guilty?
  2. What stones are you willing to carry? Set limitations for yourself.
  3. Make sure your family knows you love them, and because you love them, you must allow them to take personal responsibility for their own lives.
  4. Talk to your family and let them know your goals and priorities.

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[ June 28, 2019 by wpbiz 0 Comments ]

The Importance of Building a Positive Legacy

If you wanted to plant a new tree, would you prefer to place it in a new empty field, or an older forest? In nature, you will see that young trees flourish better when surrounded by older trees. This is because the roots of the younger trees are able to follow the “pathways” created by older ones and deeply root themselves into the ground resulting in a strong foundation. This is also how legacy works.

Believe it or not, most people don’t think about building a legacy until it’s too late. Some people have the mindset of “Why should I care what happens when I am no longer here?”

If this is you, it is important to take “death” out of the equation. Starting to build a legacy now affects you and your family just as much as it will affect the next generation.

Legacies are about learning from the past, living in the present, and building for the future. When you begin to improve yourself, your finances, your emotional/mental health, and knowledge, you too reap the benefits of a better and more fulfilling life.

Imagine having everything you need. Imagine feeling safe, secure, and confident about where you are today and where you’ll be tomorrow. Imagine not having to worry about running out of money in the future. Doesn’t that feel great? Now imagine leaving this same blueprint for your family and future generations to come. They will inherit that same great feeling and have the guidance and mindset they need to live a fulfilling life as well.

Why is Building a Positive Legacy Important?

When you are building a legacy, it is important to know that it is more than just a last name or leaving behind property and money. Your legacy will consist of emotions and knowledge as well. This means without even knowing it, you are passing down your anxiety, depression, lack of knowledge, and more! This is why it is so important to make sure you are doing everything you can to build a positive legacy.

How You Can Start Building A Positive Legacy?

  1. Identify Where You are Now.
    • Take a moment to analyze your life. Where are you currently? Are you emotionally and financially stable? Do you know all you need to know about life, money, success and more?
    • If you continue to follow the path you’re on now, will you be happy with the legacy you leave behind?
    • If not, what areas do you need to work on? If yes, do you agree that there is always room for improvement?
  2. Identify what legacy means to you
    • How do you feel about legacies?
    • Are you happy with the legacies you’ve inherited?  If so, how can you continue to build on this?  If not, how can you improve this for future generations?
    • Are you willing to put in work every dayto improve all areas of your life?
  3. Create A Plan
    • Sometimes thinking about the future can evoke anxiety. It does not have to be this way. Creating a plan or life map can prevent you from wandering aimlessly throughout life. A solid plan will give you accountability, direction, and peace of mind.
  4. Work with a Legacy Coach.
    • Not to be confused with a life a coach, although a legacy coach can help you uncover your immediate and future needs to live a happy and fulfilling life, they also take that extra step by helping you plan for the next 100 years by:
      • Working with you to create a solid legacy plan.
      • Offering guidance along the way.
      • Holding you accountable.
  5. Always be Learning (ABL)
    • Finally, we can never know too much. Take time to read and learn new things to improve yourself.